<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Andrew Schlegelmilch, Ph.D.]]></title><description><![CDATA[Mainsite 7/29/2020]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/blog-1</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Sat, 07 Mar 2026 14:38:23 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.docschleg.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[Single vs. Shared]]></title><description><![CDATA[I have changed my mind about the college housing options for my autistic clients.  Until recently my recommendation to all of my autistic clients going off to college was to recommend a single room.  Now, I am more likely to talk about pros and cons of the options (including living at home), based on my experience, and facilitate a discussion between parents and their kids.  The reality I have discovered is that shared living arrangements have their risks, and single rooms also have their...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/single-vs-shared</link><guid isPermaLink="false">698cd470e46957565bf273a1</guid><pubDate>Wed, 11 Feb 2026 19:48:54 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/c78067f077e047bdb49b916d6a9a470e.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Financial Autonomy]]></title><description><![CDATA[Can I Pay My Own Way? Considering the difference between independence and autonomy has opened some cognitive doors for me.  For instance, I have often become bogged down in working with clients on achieving financial independence.  Among other reasons, financial independence is hard to define since most people find themselves in a nebulous financial state for much of their young adult lives despite living outside of their parents' house.  For instance, I remember turning 30 and feeling bad...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/financial-autonomy</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6967fa45bbaf501a67d915e3</guid><pubDate>Thu, 15 Jan 2026 12:44:05 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e7e71a_7f02d91db0b74a91a025a6a3cdec6c7b~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_289,h_174,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[RDC: Rational Demand Compliance]]></title><description><![CDATA[Looking at something's opposite can often help us understand the thing itself.  While thinking about Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) I was struck by the thought that the vast majority of people in the world must experience the opposite.  Here's my questionable equation: autism affects an estimated 1 in 32 people.  This means that, based on a current US census of 348M people, about 10.9M people are autistic.  It is my very conservative estimation that about half of the autistic clients I...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/rdc-rational-demand-compliance</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69430c676123417009174f5a</guid><pubDate>Wed, 17 Dec 2025 20:45:58 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_6e2ab6d0ecb942b5827b1cb4dfea1b12~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Creating Structure and Routine in Purgatory]]></title><description><![CDATA[Purgatory is a place people can go when they don't deserve hell, but aren't quite ready for heaven.  It's also that place between professional activities if a person has not made a smooth, expected transition.  For instance, people who quit their job before getting another one, or finish undergrad early and have to wait a full semester before they can enter graduate school often find themselves in purgatory.  Such people that getting things done, including getting out of purgatory, becomes...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/creating-structure-and-routine-in-purgatory</link><guid isPermaLink="false">690a4eb5988cdeb684f62f90</guid><pubDate>Wed, 19 Nov 2025 16:06:04 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/43c0f0dfd5b64a49ac68abf447809312.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Marriages Are At Risk in At-Risk Families]]></title><description><![CDATA[When I started working exclusively with families of children with special needs, divorce rates were around 50%, so it was not uncommon for me to create treatment plans for kids from divorced families.  Over the years, however, I have seen some interesting marriage trends.  For instance, I saw a number of couples divorce almost as soon as their child was stabilized in my care and in school. From what I can tell, couples who have children with special needs experience specific stress when it...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/marriages-are-at-risk-in-at-risk-families</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68ee90709b32015f81ce34e3</guid><pubDate>Tue, 14 Oct 2025 19:31:25 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/adb9157c3c0146f28d1b183a6a9a7f86.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Rational Parenting]]></title><description><![CDATA[Kids These Days The big complaint about kids these days is they let their feelings dictate reality.  Sometimes this is called...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/rational-parenting</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68cc05ec60499c51a8aef721</guid><pubDate>Thu, 18 Sep 2025 15:59:34 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fb3908c8b8ae47cbb53689d856b38844.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Feeling Pathologically Out of Control]]></title><description><![CDATA[It's finally time for me to talk about PDA, or Pathological Demand Avoidance.  I have avoided this topic for a while because I felt like...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/feeling-pathologically-out-of-control</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6880f8e63fd33c2c585c4332</guid><pubDate>Tue, 19 Aug 2025 12:50:15 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/ee10b1adf6fc425d97aae6280cbe1745.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Two Grand Tasks of Parenting]]></title><description><![CDATA[For better or worse I have seen a number of parenting fads come and go.  Parenting fads are much like fad diets in that they give us a...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/the-two-grand-tasks-of-parenting</link><guid isPermaLink="false">687b9ec57a5bc82a935b2f51</guid><pubDate>Sat, 19 Jul 2025 15:53:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aaad885e980c4e7b924c2341f700bfe2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Step 1: Attend]]></title><description><![CDATA[The Dilemma I was talking with a colleague the other day who was consulting on an appropriate referral for a client.  He told me the...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/step-1-attend</link><guid isPermaLink="false">685d4d331a45e6791f593dcd</guid><pubDate>Thu, 26 Jun 2025 19:44:57 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/dac36431e7984c7e861a31343c9821f1.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Offended As a Scientist]]></title><description><![CDATA[There's an episode of Seinfeld (S8.E19) where Jerry's dentist Tim Whatley converts to Judaism.  Jerry (a Jew and comedian) notices that...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/offended-as-a-scientist</link><guid isPermaLink="false">680a4df26be0a2b59f05227b</guid><pubDate>Thu, 15 May 2025 13:48:27 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_415eb251b5164a0a98409f86bdf7e2aa~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Email is Active, Never Passive]]></title><description><![CDATA[It is my great pleasure to tell my teenage and young adult clients that I was a full grown adult before I got my first email address.  It...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/email-is-active-never-passive</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67f55e86fece5ced8d6614cc</guid><pubDate>Thu, 17 Apr 2025 18:58:48 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/19e2289055a84574b06eb6567ba2a4d5.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Better Marriage]]></title><description><![CDATA[Good marriages are really good, so I spend a lot of time thinking about and working on making marriages better.  To that end, I have come...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/a-better-marriage</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67dac8d796d65a38145d11e3</guid><pubDate>Wed, 19 Mar 2025 14:05:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_78fd6d3a7e2a4e9a80235fb5ccbc1eea~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Wishlist for Neurotypical People]]></title><description><![CDATA[Recently I have been interested in the idea of teaching neurotypical people to be better at communicating with my neurodiverse clients. ...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/wishlist-for-neurotypical-people</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67aba4a4a5a27b0f416505b2</guid><pubDate>Tue, 11 Feb 2025 20:41:32 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_7d0e16fc0a5c495e8d5532e6f0b07845~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[I'll be your friend if you stop picking your nose]]></title><description><![CDATA[It has been my experience that there is less bullying being reported to me by the kids I work with.  It would not surprise me that this...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/i-ll-be-your-friend-if-you-stop-picking-your-nose</link><guid isPermaLink="false">678be9f10c0eed12ffa48edc</guid><pubDate>Sat, 18 Jan 2025 18:24:36 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_8e6343e0ff5b4977a2f6ade51d0daeb6~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Good Parent, Bad Parent]]></title><description><![CDATA[A common trend among families with a young adult on the spectrum is the situation where one parent becomes the "good" parent and the...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/good-parent-bad-parent</link><guid isPermaLink="false">674f621661b792d74b501656</guid><pubDate>Thu, 05 Dec 2024 23:11:09 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/cfd40f7b6dd9944a8faf4c30a0bbd284.jpg/v1/fit/w_900,h_600,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Categorization of Motivization]]></title><description><![CDATA[Sunday morning is when I go for my run.  I love running but if I go too often my body rebels, so I'm limited to about once a week.  This...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/categorization-of-motivization</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67238279b8da3192a26a8b88</guid><pubDate>Thu, 31 Oct 2024 13:55:15 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e87be57765cc463fa821fecdcc94c04d.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Less Morality, More Reality]]></title><description><![CDATA[A parent's ability to form the character of their child decreases dramatically at age 18.  Prior to this, I think the relationship...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/less-morality-more-reality</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6706c28aad34607c79805f2a</guid><pubDate>Wed, 09 Oct 2024 18:39:31 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_731fbed8a989423198683e612b032a6b~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Anxious About November]]></title><description><![CDATA[There are many ways to think about anxiety, but as a behaviorist I often focus on anxiety patterns.  Some people worry in the mornings...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/anxious-about-november</link><guid isPermaLink="false">66ce0fa0afbe8531ebd934ef</guid><pubDate>Tue, 27 Aug 2024 18:42:50 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_7cf3f9f4fae6440296371d0c887872f0~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Recovery Loops]]></title><description><![CDATA[The time to apply for work is when you have a job. I have seen this axiom proven many times over with people who are looking for new jobs....]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/recovery-loops</link><guid isPermaLink="false">66c6423e260f5dd914164bf8</guid><pubDate>Wed, 21 Aug 2024 20:31:38 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_ca156b61ace54df6b99b61e115f8f66f~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Failure]]></title><description><![CDATA[In October 2019 Scientific American writer David Noonan wrote that research suggests failure is essential for success.  Search Failure...]]></description><link>https://www.docschleg.com/post/failure</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6696afe20ffce8ef8492b66b</guid><pubDate>Tue, 16 Jul 2024 17:56:23 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_74454d55346c7a414c3077~mv2_d_3993_2653_s_4_2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>docschleg</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>